"I have asked 5 friends of mine to be in my wedding. They all expressed their happiness for me and promised to be there for me throughout my planning process. I have asked all the ladies to go to a local bridal shop to chose from my 4 selections what they would like to wear for the wedding and make their deposit. All except for one has made her deposit. It has been 2 months since I made the request and I have reached out to my friend to find out what her plans are to be in my wedding and she has yet to say what she will do. I don't want to hold up the process for the other 4 ladies to get their dresses. The dresses will take at least 3 months after we order for them to be delivered to the shop. I still have enough time prior to my wedding but at this point what do I do?"
Continue below to see what Sheila L. should do.
We have asked several of our brides and the consensus was to find time to talk to her friend to find what is her situation. If at the end of the conversation you find your friend cannot come through then you have your answer to move forward. If it is for financial reasons, you can possibly use her in another role that does not post a financial hardship to her. Communication is major during the wedding planning process and keeping your intentions and expectations clear from the beginning keeps continued misunderstandings from happening.
If you haven't chosen your bridal party yet, here are some tips from Team 6.
Create a special invitation and treats box to ask your friend to be a bridesmaid, maid of honor, or matron of honor.
The box can include special things that your friend likes along with an invitation to ask her to be your bridesmaid.
Ideally, another card that outlines the financial responsibility. This will remove the emotional response and provide a realistic response to take on this role.
Keep in mind the costs associated such as: dress, shoes, make-up, hair, bridal shower contribution, bouquets, etc.
Solicit the help of a planner expert to assist you with cost estimates.
Give a deadline for a response to your request.
Be open to the fact that if someone can't be a part of your wedding that they still love you, but this may not be a good time for them.
Being a bridesmaid takes a lot of time and dedication, please respect their decision.